Drought, Divine Preparation and God’s Good Gifts

by Lois Flowers

Inside: It might look like drought to us, but what if it’s also God’s way of helping us let go? Plus some link love to help celebrate a non-milestone birthday. ~

It’s so dry, even the weeds are dying.

That was my first thought as I dragged the hose around my neglected flower bed a few weeks ago. It’s fall, so we should have been getting rain here in Kansas. At the time, though, the dryness of the last several seasons showed no sign of leaving, discouraging the heart of this low-maintenance gardener to no end.

(I water newly planted perennials, of course, but drought tolerance is high on my list of non-negotiable characteristics when I make additions to my garden areas.)

Thankfully, the rain finally came last week. But even now as I look around—at my formerly thriving hosta patch, at the stunted foliage of my beloved Siberian irises, at a puny cluster of peonies that originated in the rich soil of my childhood home—I can’t help but wonder.

Deep in my heart, where God seems to prepare the soil of my life long before I’m aware of it, is this the start of the letting go?

God’s Good Gifts

We’ve lived here since 2011. It’s been a great house, and an even better home.

I love the kitchen we remodeled a few years ago, the home theater Randy designed in the basement, the numerous garden patches, all the built-in bookshelves.

But now that both daughters are in college, we’re not tied to this location anymore. Randy dreams of a house with a detached shop. I long for a place with a view—maybe where I can see the sunrise out one window and the sunset out of another. (I know such homes exist because my mother-in-law lives in one.)

I’m content where I am, but I’ve been praying for our next place for a long time. Which is why I noticed what children’s author and editor Amanda Cleary Eastep wrote on Instagram recently. “I once asked God for a small patch of woods,” she said. “Sweetly answered.”

Her words remind me that God loves to give His children good gifts, when they align with His good will for their lives. So I will continue to pray, trusting that He will lead us to our next place if and when the time is right.

Link Love

In the meantime, I have a birthday coming up in a few days. To celebrate, I thought I’d share some blog posts that have struck various chords with me lately.

First up, “The Size of Your God is More Important Than the Size of Your Strength” by Michele Morin.

She writes: “When the weight of my own small assignment bears down and I feel the excuses begin to bubble up, I’m learning to let truth inform my feelings.”

I relate to many of Lisa Brittain thoughts in “It’s Why I Write.”

“Loss is normal in this broken world,” she says. “My solace, and my sanity, is that my name is carved upon His hands. I will not be a known writer on earth. It doesn’t matter. I write so He can help me sort and throw out thoughts and feelings that are not of Him.”

Randy and I have been married almost two decades longer than my sweet friend Ashley Rowland, but I appreciated her perspectives in “11 Simple Things I’ve Learned in 11 Years of Marriage.”

“We agree on all kinds of issues, which is wonderful to have in a marriage,” she writes. “But then there all kind of differences, too. Whether it’s our personalities or preferences or opinions, differences are also important. With our differences, we cover more ground.”

Finally, in honor of my birthday, I’ll end with a piece by Tim Challies titled “No Fear of Old Age.”

“Old age is the crescendo, the climax, the denouement,” Challies says. “It is the beautiful and powerful ending to something precious, something wondrous. It is no more to be dreaded than the final chapter of a great story, no more to be feared than the closing film of a trilogy.”

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Let me know if any of those posts resonate with you too. Also, I’m not hitting a milestone age this year. But if you have any words of wisdom for someone who’s about to turn 53, feel free to share them in the comments.

Lois

Deep in my heart, where God seems to prepare the soil of my life long before I’m aware of it, is this the start of the letting go? Share on X God loves to give His children good gifts, when they align with His good will for their lives. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with Sweet Tea & Friends, Inspire Me Monday, #tellhisstory, InstaEncouragementsLet’s Have Coffee and Grace & Truth.

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20 comments

Paula November 11, 2023 - 9:17 am

Happy Birthday Lois. I get what you’re saying. Sending new place prayers your way. I love your insights and encouragement here.
Thanks so very much for sharing this with Sweet Tea & Friends this month dear friend.

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Lois Flowers November 27, 2023 - 11:24 am

Hi Paula … thanks so much for your “new place prayers.” Hope you’re doing well, friend. 🙂

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Natalie Ogbourne November 5, 2023 - 3:07 pm

Happy birthday! My husband and I are on a similar trajectory of thought about our home and I find it a bit disorienting. Of course, I’m realizing that I have been far more disoriented by transitions than I knew. I’m going to have to look into that . . .

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Lois Flowers November 6, 2023 - 4:53 pm

Oh Natalie … there’s so much to “look into” as we get older, isn’t there? 🙂 I’d like to think I’m a bit better at handling transitions than I used to be, and then one hits me and I realize maybe not.

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Carol November 4, 2023 - 3:48 pm

It has been a challenging summer for gardens. Like you I am a fan of perennial plants. I agree with you, when we pray we can trust God to lead us.

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Lois Flowers November 6, 2023 - 4:52 pm

Carol, I suppose there’s a little comfort in knowing I’m not the only frustrated gardener out there. 🙂 And when I look out to my patio, it seems we are getting a bumper crop of hedge apples from our hedge trees right now, so at least something did well this year!

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Donna November 1, 2023 - 3:47 pm

Happy Birthday, Lois! I just celebrated a short time ago, the big 65! My husband and I are thinking of moving too, I have always wanted a house where I could watch the sunrise on one side and the sunset on another, always felt like that was an unrealistic desire, but you have encouraged me to ask!

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Lois Flowers November 2, 2023 - 10:29 am

A belated happy birthday to you, Donna! I’m glad my little story has encouraged you to pray for a home in that setting. If that’s where God wants us to be, He’ll open up the right places, right? 🙂 Hugs, friend.

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Barbara Harper November 1, 2023 - 3:04 pm

This stood out to me: “where God seems to prepare the soil of my life long before I’m aware of it.” I hadn’t though of it that way, but it’s true.

A couple of times, we felt inclined to pull back from some church ministries we’d been involved in. We didn’t realize it then, but we found out later we’d be moving due to my husband’s job. That and other indications helped prepare us to pull up stakes before we even knew we’d need to. A friend of mine called that God stirring the nest.

May God lead you to just the patch He has for you in His time.

I had enjoyed Michele’s and Ashley’s posts earlier. Lisa’s look intriguing. I know I read Tim’s, but I need to go back and look at that one.

Happy birthday!

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Lois Flowers November 2, 2023 - 10:26 am

Barbara, I love your examples of how God “stirred your nest.” I also love that wording … it goes right along with that other phrase I think you introduced me to, calling ourselves “bird launchers” instead of empty nesters. 🙂

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Deborah Rutherford November 1, 2023 - 9:29 am

Happy Birthday Lois. I loved reading this day bringing me encouragement in our good God. I also like all the quotes you provided. Tim Challies “No Fear of Old Age” is perfect. I turned 64 in September. Wisdom – every day is precious – live for God, take care of our bodies, and love. We may age here on earth but once we are in heaven we will be ageless.

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Lois Flowers November 2, 2023 - 10:23 am

Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Deborah–so helpful! And I love the thought that “in heaven we will be ageless.” 🙂

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Trudy October 31, 2023 - 3:08 pm

I hope you have a blessedly Happy Birthday, Lois! 💕 Len says Happy Birthday, too. 🙂 I don’t have words of wisdom, but I have learned that though letting go of one season can be hard, there is comfort in the Truth that into whatever season of life God leads us, He is faithful and will never abandon us!
Lisa’s post especially resonated with me. Love and blessings to you!

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Lois Flowers November 2, 2023 - 10:21 am

Thanks so much for your birthday greetings, Trudy! I appreciate your reminder that “into whatever season of life God leads us, He is faithful and will never abandon us.” Such comfort in that. Love and hugs, friend

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Lynn October 31, 2023 - 2:55 pm

Happy birthday! Trusting God’s timing on moving and with all life transitions can be tough, but for sure grow our faith! I wondered if a second chance of marriage was in God’s plan then 26 years later, (at 58 years old) I’m married to a godly man. 🙂 God’s got our best in mind, no matter our age.

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Lois Flowers November 2, 2023 - 10:19 am

Aw, Lynn … I’m so glad God gave you a second chance at marriage after all those years and that you are enjoying this new phase of life! 🙂

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Lisa Brittain October 31, 2023 - 10:26 am

Lois,
Happy birthday 🌸
And thank you for tagging me in your post. I’m always grateful to know someone received a blessing of grace from the Lord through my writing. I love the memories of my 50s. They were hard and I grew in faith the most since I first came to faith.
As a gift, I would like to send you my book 31 Days of Gleaning With Ruth: questioning my way through a famine season. It’s a devotional study through the beautiful book of Ruth. I wrote and published this book originally at age 54. Empty nest. My husband’s long term diagnosis and career loss. My 50’s were adventurous and healing. If you would send me your address through my contact form I will mail my book to you.
Bless you. Eyes on Jesus and Shine

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Lois Flowers November 2, 2023 - 10:13 am

Hi Lisa … the way you describe your 50s is exactly how I would describe my 40s. 🙂 I’d love to receive a copy of your book and will pop over and send my address soon. Hugs, friend.

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Michele Morin October 31, 2023 - 7:25 am

My fifties were a delight, so enjoy every minute! And thank you for sharing my post!

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Lois Flowers November 2, 2023 - 10:08 am

You are very welcome, Michele. Good to hear your fifties were a delight!

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